Please, just ask a black person

Karol Collymore

I got home tonight after a very long day, curious to see what my favorite sites are offering up for my amusement. For the MILLIONTH day in a row, there is a story around the "fist bump" on Gawker. Um, ok. First of all, its called a dap or a pound. Second of all, have none of you ever watched a sporting event, gone to a frat party, a beer drinking competition, a movie with a black character as comic relief, or two boys look at a girl's rack and go, "Damn!" as she walks by proceeded by the giving of the aforementioned daps?

Now, I know it was a shock that two Harvard grads were giving each other daps on the national stage, but lets not pretend its the first time we've seen it. The booty slap after the daps was more interesting as far as I'm concerned. But the North Carolina News & Observer is currently taking the cake. One of their reporters has actually put together a video showing "mainstream America" how to give a fist bump. Fool, please.

Having the first really, really, REALLY valid half black candidate is a big deal. All the colloquialisms are flying left and right. Michelle is "Obama's Babies Mama," Barak brushes his shoulders off; reflecting his Jay-Z listening skills, he even dances on Ellen. That wasn't a stereotype we needed, Barack. We all know our people can dance. But lets not get silly friends. By entertaining this nonsense you are treating a rich culture of people like they are hip teens that parents are desperately trying to emulate or worse, using it as pure show for late night comics and silly You Tube videos.

And if you want to give a pound, just stick your fist out - I'm down.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    I have never seen a "dap" before, and I've never heard of one until this Obama and Michelle incident. The media attention seems somewhat deserved, given that this is new and different to the majority of Americans.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    (The "baby mama" reference, on the other hand, was totally offensive and inappropriate.)

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    Peter, Now, I'm not calling you old, I promise. But maybe giving a pound is generational? The gen y and millenials' high five? I recommend watching the Celtics v. Lakers this coming Sunday for ideal dap-giving instruction.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    Maybe, maybe not... I'm 35, so still aware of what is going on younger generation wise. I watch no sports know anything about sports, so perhaps that is to do with it. Regardless, I am pretty sure Barack and Michelle aren't generation Y!

  • Anonymous (unverified)
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    I'm only 25 and white and have greeted friends with the "pound" since I can remember. At least more than 10 years. This isn't new.

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    The media attention seems somewhat deserved, given that this is new and different to the majority of Americans.

    OK, Peter Bray has now officially entered troll territory (either that, or he's been living somewhere in a pop-culture-free zone for the last decade.)

    Here's a photo of President George H.W. Bush doing the fist bump with Anna Kournikova.

    And don't forget the "fist bump" commercial from Bud Light during the 2007 Super Bowl, in which the fist bump was declared "out".

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    Incidentally, the racism meme is definitely one to pay attention to, re: Obama.

    But, equally, it really distresses me to see people freely attack McCain for being "too old". It's sad to see ageism such as this, from DailyKos, on display so prominently without any complaint.

    I don't want a McCain presidency, but if that requires disparaging older generations... jeez. Ugly business.

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    It isn't the age, it's the incuriosity, crankiness, and complacency.

    Advanced age CAN be a marker for such traits but it certainly doesn't have to be.

  • Stephen Holland (unverified)
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    Karol, thank you so much for calling out the inanity of the media. I don't know if anybody saw this gem from Fox News, but geez, it doesn't get much more ridiculous.

    And Peter, while I think it's absolutely fine that you didn't know what this was before Barack and Michelle Obama started doing it, be cautious when you assume that "the majority of Americans" don't know what it is, just because you didn't.

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    As for the fist bump, I should say that I'm over 50 and my friends and I have been doing it for ages. Which clearly means that it isn't even cool anymore.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    OK, Peter Bray has now officially entered troll territory (either that, or he's been living somewhere in a pop-culture-free zone for the last decade.)

    Huh?

    You display two sports-related references to this handshake as proof of its universality, even after I say that I never watch sports?

    I'll just point out for Kari Chisholm, too, that the Bud Light commercial plays on the temporality of the "fist bump" by saying it is now "out" and something new is in. Sorry if I am following the teen beat scene as Chisholm apparently is (or apparently he is mad that I call him a capitalist who attacks other Democrats... easy to get rid of villains like me, right?)

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    Look, jeez... I dare say that the majority of Americans ARE unfamiliar with this. It's unique, and it's not necessarily bad for the media to focus on it.

    I suppose we could criticize the media for focusing on "hatless Senator Kennedy" a generation ago?

    Look, I wear a leak on my chest some days of the year... if a Presidential candidate started to do that, it would gather attention as it is not in the mainstream. Bumping fists is not something typically done by politicians to their wives, and so attention to it isn't exactly unusual. (Remember the "Gore kiss" and the media attention?)

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    I want to say, I love giving, getting and witnessing the pounds. I love old people, young people and middle aged people. Stephanie, POUNDS for your work with Novick. Kari, double pound for your first Father's Day - followed by "blowin' it up."

    I'm not anyone's baby mama, but I will be one day. If someone makes fun of me for it I'll know I've made it.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    It isn't the age, it's the incuriosity, crankiness, and complacency.

    Fair enough. But I don't know if that is the purpose of that post, or the other memes floating around (such as this one).

  • James X. (unverified)
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    More photos of terrorist fist jabs.

    Also, is "Ask a Black Person" going to be a recurring feature on BlueOregon?

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    Peter says: You display two sports-related references to this handshake as proof of its universality, even after I say that I never watch sports?

    To which the best response is Stephen's, earlier: ...be cautious when you assume that "the majority of Americans" don't know what it is, just because you didn't.

    Look, you want to live in a pop-culture-free zone, go right ahead. But don't pretend that it's normal.

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    Peter, you can dare say it, but it doesn't make it true. It's been all over all sorts of media for ages and I don't get out that much, it just isn't worth singling out.

  • James X. (unverified)
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    Also, Peter, anybody who has watched an episode of Deal or No Deal is familiar with daps. I'm not really into the frat-tastic dap, but casual ones, or in the Obamas' case, cute romantic ones, are cool.

  • petr.ichor (unverified)
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    i gotta give props to the dap. back in 2001 i had crippling tendinitis; it was so bad a solid hand shake would have one of two results:

    1) me giving the weakest dead fish handshake in the world, and the other person losing respect 2) me giving a real handshake if the previous scenario was not acceptable and then being in excruciating pain for days.

    so i switched to the the dap for quite a while. even people who obviously did't know what it was played along, but most people seem to get it. i honestly never even knew it was a black thing until this who media circus.

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    the best part of the dap was the look in Michelle's eyes. damn. we should all be loved and admired by someone special half as much. it was an amazing look and told me everything i need to know about how Michelle feels about her man.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    Well, maybe I spend too much time in Asia, but it is totally new to me. (Sorry, I have never seen Deal Not Deal.)

    But, again, this slang handshake IS new to presidential politics, and therefore it probably isn't unusual for the media to focus on it.

    While some may chastise me for assuming that most Americans are not familiar with it, it is perhaps equally silly to assume, as this original post and many posters do, that Americans ARE familiar with it, and that the media's focus on it is due to some racism, bias, or misunderstanding of their audience.

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    Yea, I was going to say I don't even watch that much tv or movies, and I've known about the "dap" for years.

    I wrote on a similar topic earlier today - it was focused just on FOX News' coverage of these things - the assassination joke, the "terrorist fist jabs," and the "baby mama." It's absolutely disgusting.

  • Pat Malach (unverified)
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    My nephew and I have been greeting each other with "knuckles" since about the time he first started to walk.

    He doesn't watch sports either, Peter.

    This is pretty high on the silly meter, but I fear things are just getting started in what Andrew Sullivan calls "the freak show" that we'll see against Obama through November.

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    Peter, let's assume that as a matter of "new presidential style" it could be a legitimate matter of some media interest -- do you think that linking it to terrorism is legitimate? Do you think the quantity and tenor reflect the "innocent" market response you posit?

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    OF COURSE it is NOT legitimate to refer to it as a "terrorist fist jab" (or whatever they said). That is TOTALLY out of line! And it is perhaps out of line of you to suggest that I suggested that!

    I mean, rather, that it IS appropriate to comment on their style and interaction with each other, particularly in how it differs from previous nominees, etc. That is the role of the media. Andrew Jackson went around kissing babies and the media focused on that. These simple things reveal things about people, and they are often important.

    Heck, I am backwards. Even in Utah this slang handshake is well-known:

    For a growing number of Utahns, the fist bump may be becoming as common as a handshake.

    Especially for teenagers and kids.

    The fist bump is also called “bones” by some and is now a common greeting.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    Apologies to President Jackson:

    Jackson experienced the first known case of a President being handed a baby to kiss. However, Jackson declined, and handed the baby to Secretary of War John H. Eaton to do the honors.

  • Peter Bray (unverified)
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    While researching Jackson, boy, things are pretty darn different nowadays:

    Jackson's political opponents convinced Dickinson to insult Jackson's wife, assuming Jackson would not survive. At a party near Hillsboro, Maryland at the Daffin House plantation, Dickinson met Jackson and struck up a conversation about horse racing. Later the two would meet again after Dickinson had relocated to Nashville, Tennessee. A duel was set up between the two. Jackson waited, planning for Dickinson to shoot first. Dickinson took his shot, and Jackson took one ball in the ribs.[1] Without wavering, Jackson then fatally wounded his opponent with a .70-caliber bullet to Dickenson's middle, severing an artery. This was not, however, a violation of the rules of a duel. Jackson still got his shot as his gun at first did not fire at all. A few hours later Dickenson died, the only man Jackson killed in any of his thirteen duels.

  • Judith (unverified)
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    Karol, thanks for your commentary. I always appreciate reading another smart woman's insights.

    I've done the "dap" or "pound" with various people for a few years. I don't personally keep up much with "pop" culture, but I do work with teen girls. Fortunately, they get a kick out of helping my 57 y.o. self to keep current with certain things. Although one of the girls taught me the "dap" a few years ago, she neglected to tell me what it is officially named.

    So, for this middle aged woman the current controversy was enlightening. Not only because I finally learned the name of the gesture I'd been using for awhile, but because I have been once again reminded about how awful FOX news is. I admit, I've only watched brief clips of the controversial news commentary on the web, for that is all I can stand of that network.

    Perhaps we should start referring to FOX news as a "terrorist" network?

  • Kurt Chapman (unverified)
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    I fail to see any relevance to any of this. How does asking a black person figure in w/a dap, fist bump, knuckles or whatever? So Obama and Michelle did one. Who really cares?

    Certainly not most American voters regardless their partisanship or their beliefs. This is a non-story move along please!

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    James X: I love the idea of a regular "Just ask a black person" but we may need a contributor that's less blerdy (that's black nerd).

    Here's a little history from Wikipedia on the history of daps as it relates to blacks. I do celebrate that all people from all walks enjoy giving a pound, which adds to the silliness fo the coverage on the whole thing.

  • Ed Bickford (unverified)
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    Karol, thank you so much for starting my day with a good laugh! If Barack can generate this amount of publicity just by getting 'pound' with his wife, cranky ol' McSame has NO chance.

    It's unfortunate it reverberates so loudly off of the ignorant redneck mass facing Barack, but it's just too good!

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    Well...

    So "dap" is what its called. I've just been calling it "knuckle-tapping"..cuz I didn't know it had an official name. I've been doing it with my kids and other political folks for a number of years.

    I feel so "in the loop" now.

    Thanks Karol!

  • Mike Schryver (unverified)
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    I, too, have been doing this for years, and had no idea it was a black thing. I assumed that the silly Fox coverage treating it as a "black" gesture was the result of insularity, living in a bubble, etc, but apparently not. You learn something new every day.

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    What I love about this story is the basic message that the Repbulican establishment is so out of touch with America. With, the exception of the much critiqued Peter Bray, how can anyone in touch with what is going on in the sports world or with anyone under the age of 35 not be aware? However, let's keep in mind that the Republicans have nominated a guy that doesn't know how to use a computer. My guess is that he also doesn't use a Blackberry or Treo or iPod, or iPhone, or ????. My mother is approaching 95 and she uses a computer. What century do these people live in?

  • James X. (unverified)
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    Gosh, Karol, we just got you, now we need to find another cool black friend?

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    Jame X, I think you can diversify, maybe, with someone from the Middle East? That would be interesting. Add a sprinkle of Guatemalan and maybe some one Jewish and I think you've got yourself a cool crew. No one could compete with your cred.

  • trishka (unverified)
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    okay, i live under a rock, and i have seen this on tv. (thank you, "the wire").

    i have never done the gesture myself because, being one of the whitest people in america, i would feel silly.

    my 2yo son & i have, however, modified it into a greeting of our own, one that we have aptly named "elbow bump".

  • joel dan walls (unverified)
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    The Obamas' fist jab (or whatever you want to call it) was patently offensive because neither of them had the US flag tattooed on their hand, and because Ms. Obama was not wearing a flag pin. Also, neither or them was wearing a baseball uniform at the time, or even wearing a baseball cap. Clearly the Obamas are trying to subvert what little remains of our Authentic American Culture.

    But forget the terrorist fist jabs, start worrying about the terrorist enablers on the Supreme Court and their absurd blathering about weird concepts like habeas corpus.

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    Here's a little history from Wikipedia on the history of daps as it relates to blacks. I do celebrate that all people from all walks enjoy giving a pound, which adds to the silliness fo the coverage on the whole thing.

    Also, this:

    The two men [Jackson and Dickinson] met on the field chosen by Dickinson, along with their second. They shook hands, bumped knuckles (in the traditional Tennessee dueling style), then stood back to back as the seonds readied their guns, in order to pace out the distance.
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    I apologize for the "transcription" errors. My typing knuckles seem to be sore.

  • Marshall Collins (unverified)
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    James X- If you met my husband you could kill multiple birds with 1 stone. Gay, korean, divorced and re-married, adopted by midwesterners of Finish (Dad) and swedish (mom) decent.He also has some fairly conservative views and would probably register republican if it weren't so overtaken by religious bigots. I love it when he hears people having a "who is the most opressed" debate. He almost always wins.

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    Karol,

    The folks at FOX are a-holes, granted, but they're not idiots. As media professionals, their job is to know what's going on, what's new, what's fashionable, etc. So, they clearly know what a dap is.

    It's not that THEY are completely clueless, but that they're trying to influence people who are. The whole "terrorist fist jab" thing is an attempt to reaffirm negative views of Obama among those who already hold them, to define him as "other." Unfortunately, it probably works, and most likely with older voters less likely to be familiar with contemporary culture.

    On the other hand, the "Obama's Babies Mama" reference to Michele (the classiest woman I've seen in a long time) is an out-and-out racist wink to people who get their ideas of black culture from watching "Cribs" or some of BET's more unfortunate selections (yes, non-blacks watch it too!)

    I hope folks remember where the money is going whenever they tell the ratings people they've been watching FOX sports or buy a Simpson's doll.

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    "the best part of the dap was the look in Michelle's eyes. damn. we should all be loved and admired by someone special half as much. it was an amazing look and told me everything i need to know about how Michelle feels about her man."

    After seeing the picture at the "We Love Michelle Obama" Facebook group (which I found yesterday, inviting some of you reading to do the same), I made it my laptop wallpaper (replacing the cover shot from Oregon Natural Beef's homepage--a cool ranching scene). I loved the dap scene the minute I saw it before his speech, and immediately thought "Wow, that sure looks more sincere than Gore frenching his wife." Seeing the freeze frame of the look they gave each other, explained to me why I thought so.

    I'm terribly overhyping it beyond anything they can deliver, but every time I see the Obama family together I get chills: are they REALLY going to be the face of America for the next four years or more? This beautiful, strong family? After how many dysfunctional First Families?

    Regarding the cultural curiosity of dap: the hard truth is still that black people know more than they want to about how white people tend to live their lives, but white people are mostly clueless about African Americans. I'm reminded of a Dan Bern lyric: "Whenever I go by black people's cars/I always like the music better than mine/I can never find the station/I don't think my radio gets it..." Whether the term "gets it" has multiple meanings I don't know, but I'd say they apply.

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    Okay, I'm forty years old and white as the Idaho snow, and I've been pounding since the 80s. This gesture has been on pick-up basketball courts forever. I think the lexicon has regional uses. The pound and the dap seem to be variously applied to horizontal, head-on fist taps and vertical top-to-bottom fist tapping. But whatever it's called, it's been around a long ass time. I always regarded it as more sporty than racial.

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    Jamias Vu, I know Fox people are not idiots, they are crazy like...ok, foxes. They've taken something normal among a lot of people and made it Black. Ya, I said it.

    But its not about them, its about everything. Why is a newspaper reporter making a video? But it's really Jeff Alworth's point that many minorities know way too much about White culture and it doesn't go the other way around. We are all going through a learning curve. I'm just going to have fun making light of it on this blog.

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    lest jeff lose his cred, I think it was me who cited the inequity of cultural knowledge, Karol. If they didn't do it on Cosby or Cops, whitey doesn't know about it.

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    Lose? I regard this as a huge step up--someone thought I had some to begin with. Baby steps. (Not baby mama steps.)

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    don't know where the cred meter stands for you Jeff, but being associated--even inadvertently--with one of my comments is serious pariah territory. Next thing you know, you start hearing about being "rusticated." Denounce and reject while you still can!

  • selenesmom (unverified)
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    It is amazing the things I am learning during this campaign. I thought the fist-bump thing was a ritual specific to high school girls' basketball teams in the Portland area, because as each girl is introduced she goes and bumps fists with the officials. Now it turns out some huge number of people have (a) never heard of it or (b) confused it with the Black Power fist salute, apparently.

    Kari: That's just Peter's personality. It pre-dates BO.

  • selenesmom (unverified)
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    Oops sorry, when I said that some people had confused it with the Black Power fist salute, I meant some WHITE people. I didn't realize until recently that this fist-bumping is associated with anyone's traditions or cultures. Why did I post.

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    I denounce and reject everything and everyone that reduces the perceived level of my cred, situationally and provisionally, until such time when society deems those things and people to be newly accredited, whereupon I will praise and embrace them.

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    Can we all agree that this shoiuld be the official Dem activist salutation between now and November?

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    I'm sure the 40- and 50-something white dudes who exchange "pounds" at various darting establishments around town would be incredibly amused by all this.

    The "pound" (or "bones" as one friend of mine used to call it) has seemed pretty normal to me since college (over ten years ago). The fact that even darts-players (not generally the hippest of folks) have been doing this for years makes me think you have to be pretty well isolated from pop culture, or even culture in general, to have this be something entirely new. Come on folks, get out a little bit...

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    "Dude, what's up?" "Please, ask a black person."

    Doesn't work for me, Pat.

    ;)

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    Can we all agree that this shoiuld be the official Dem activist salutation between now and November?

    You meant "Dem terrorist salutation", didn't you, Pat? :)

    I remember talking about weddings to another recently-married guy back in the late '80s, and we touched our left fists (with the rings) together and yelled "SHAZAM!" (not to be confused with "Kazaam" starring Shaquille O'Neal).

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    I think the pound is the official Blue O handshake. now if any of us could actually see each other...

  • Gordon Morehouse (unverified)
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    Pfft. As if anything appearing on a Gawker property is worth a nanosecond of brain time.

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    People really should follow up the link Dan Petegorsky provided, it repays the effort if you like to see evil stupidity and stupid evility sliced, diced snd skewered with sharp verbal implements.

    Peter Bray, I didn't mean to imply that you don't care about Fox smears, but you also didn't put it into the mix of what's at stake in people's reactions. Then again, both of us evidently are taking this much too seriously. :->

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    I know this isn't fair, but compare Michelle Obama's effect on Barack Obama to Cindy McCain's effect on John McCain, Laura Bush's effect on Dubya, etc.

    I'd vote Obama just so Michelle could be First Lady.

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    Yes, yes, yes. That link from the Whatever blog is absolutely dead on.

    Thank you, Petegorsky.

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    "Dude, what's up?" "Please, ask a black person."

    <h1>Doesn't work for me, Pat.</h1>

    As long as we are being racist, it doesn't work for me either.

    But what does work for me was that black dude (man? student? guy?) in Corvallis doing his "Meet a black guy" booth at the farmers market. People could even get a picture taken with him. The best quote in the article came from some white couple who did not like what he was doing, and were insulted. Their quote: "Some of our friends are black".

    Do you think we could get him to come to Central Oregon? There are not that many blacks east of the mountains (or south of Eugene, for that matter).

  • One Citizen (unverified)
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    Just what in the heck is going on at Fox News with that "terrorist fist bump" and their stupid "baby mama" comments? I mean C'MON! How racially divisive can one "news" channel be? And why would they label Barack Obama's United Church of Christ, one of the country’s most racially diverse Protestant denominations as a black separatist organization? After all, back in 2005, didn't Republican National Committee Chairman Ken Mehlman publicly state "It's not healthy for the country for our political parties to be so racially polarized" and apologize for their destructive tactics known historically and collectively as their "Southern Strategy"? SOURCE

    DOES FOX= GOP?

    About the RNC's "Southern Strategy", there's a certain connection between FoxNews and the GOP which most folks are likely unaware: "Fox's founder and president, Roger Ailes, was for decades one of the savviest and most pugnacious Republican political operatives in Washington, a veteran of the Nixon and Reagan campaigns. Ailes is most famous for his role in crafting the elder Bush's media strategy in the bruising 1988 presidential race. With Ailes' help, Bush turned a double-digit deficit in the polls into a resounding win by targeting the GOP's base of white male voters in the South and West, using red-meat themes like Michael Dukakis' "card-carrying" membership in the ACLU, his laissez-faire attitude toward flag-burning, his alleged indifference to the pledge of allegiance--and, of course, paroled felon Willie Horton.

    "Described by fellow Bush aide Lee Atwater as having "two speeds--attack and destroy," Ailes once jocularly told a Time reporter (8/22/88): "The only question is whether we depict Willie Horton with a knife in his hand or without it." Later, as a producer for Rush Limbaugh's short-lived TV show, he was fond of calling Bill Clinton the "hippie president" and lashing out at "liberal bigots" (Washington Times, 5/11/93). It is these two sensibilities above all--right-wing talk radio and below-the-belt political campaigning--that Ailes brought with him to Fox, and his stamp is evident in all aspects of the network's programming."

    SOURCE

    AILES' NEW SOUTHERN STRATEGY TAG TEAM

    Recently Fox pundit Sean Hannity has publicly admitted that he's a McCain surrogate, and anyone who has watched his show in the last month should have pretty much figured out exactly why he's so dead-set against Obama. And there's that other Fox bully. Bill O'Reilley's history of racist slurs stretches far earlier than his visit to Sylvia's restaurant in New York City when he was apparently astounded to learn recently that some black people use silverware just like grown-ups. And when on his tv show he stated he wasn't quite ready to "go on a lynch party" against Michelle Obama, he was't even slapped on the wrist.

    AILES CLAIMES THAT HIS TEAM "LIKES AMERICA", but...

    In a CSPAN interview on Dec. 20, 2004, Fox News chief Roger Ailes said, "We like America. (The other media) don't hate it, they just are constantly telling you what's wrong. There's never a good story about America. We don't promote something that isn't true".

    REALLY? So if Ailes and his team "like" America all that much, then perhaps he should explain so many of his staff have taken up his old-but-not-quite-forgotten racially divisive Southern Strategy!?

    And by the way, isn't it high time the rest of the media to call for the GOP to denounce and disown Roger Ailes and his FoxNoose Channel?

    One Citizen Charleston, WV

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